Credits: My Bathroom Mirror.
Let's start off with Issa and Lawrence and the pillars of their relationship.
I've decided to separate these because I want to analyze each one individually. The first is Issa and Lawrence's history. What's ironic is that the same amount of time they have been together is how long Monique and Andre (characters from the book) were together before Monique ended up pregnant. In "Mo's Mix," Monique and Andre faced problems in their 5th year too because they wondered what was next for them as a couple.
Quite similarly, Issa seems to be wondering the same thing. However, these is one difference between Issa and Lawrence and Monique and Andre: job statuses. In the first book, Monique and Andre are both working decent paying jobs, her as a CEO of a growing business and him as a 3rd year associate at a law firm (like Molly). For Issa and Lawrence, it is different. Issa works at We Got Y'all, which is a program designed to help kids while Lawrence is between jobs and this causes a riff in their relationship. Issa is tired of footing the bills while Lawrence chases his pipe dream of designing an app. Eventually, they break up, but their love for each other and their compromise brings them back together. Lawrence gets a job at Best Buy and eventually a tech firm while Issa learns to communicate and be more patient.
Everything seems sound in their relationship, until Daniel comes along. Now, Daniel was already around when Lawrence was messing up the first time. He became that "I can do you better" type of man and Issa fell into it. So, although she rekindles with Lawrence, she still holds a semi-lit torch for Daniel, wondering what could have been. This causes major problems when sleeps with Daniel. After this, Lawrence is done with Issa, although his financial instability may have been the cause of the problem.
In a lot of these response songs by women, you'll find
"But, you have Nicki and Rihanna and Beyoncé," they'll say. "Shouldn't you be happy?" What these people are really asking is for women to be happy with the bare minimum as if the Hip Hop industry is not severely lacking representation of women. Yes, we have a few women MCs who get enough airplay to compete with some of these men, thankfully, but these diversity quotas are a starting point, at the very least. Recently, I began listening to SZA and my ears were greatly pleased. She's a talented woman MC who has the potential to break through in this industry.
Most of my favorite Hip Hop artists are men, but that's a given when men dominate our airwaves (generally speaking). This is not to say that we don't have any women competing or that men are at fault, but representation is always important and, although men rappers can make hits, sometimes you want someone who can relate to you on a personal level. I can bump Cole any day, yet he cannot fully speak to me because there are things he fails to understand. What he lacks in empathy for these "hoes," he makes up for in empathy for the streets. I guess.
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